Oral Sex for Every Body: Giving and Receiving for Men and Women (9 page)

Small Penis*. . . . . Less than 4" (12 cm) . . . . . .3% of men

Medium Penis*. . . . .Between 4" and 6" (12 cm and 17 cm)

. . . . . .79% of men

Large Penis*. . . . .Over 6" (17 cm) . . . . . .18% of men

The diameter is usually between 1" and 1" (3 cm and 4.2 cm).

*Measured when erect MASSAGING THE “LINGAM”

“Lingam” is the Sanskrit word which refers to the male sexual organ. You’re about to learn a Tantric massage for this area, which will drive your guy nuts with pleasure.

First have him lie down, face up, with several pillows under his head (so that the head and torso are raised). He should be comfortable, with his knees slightly bent and legs apart. In

this position his genitals should be completely exposed for the massage to be totally effective.

Warm a little massage oil in your hands and spread it on his penis (or lingam) and testicles. Start massaging his scrotum and testicles, making sure they are relaxed. Rub his perineum gently (between the testicles and anus) and continue with the lingam, changing pressure and speed so as to increase his pleasure.

With your right hand, press the base of his penis. Slide your hand up and down, alternating with your left hand as well. Continue these movements and then press the head of the lingam, alternating your hands.

Remember the aim of this Tantric massage is not to bring him to ejaculation. In every way, by now, your lover will be totally aroused, so back off a bit from further stimulation.

Now it’s time to massage the “Sacred Point” (perineum). To do this, you can press the zone gently with your left hand while you continue to use your right hand to massage the lingam.

Continue this way for a few minutes, until he reaches orgasm. FELLATIO: MAKE HIM MELT WITH PLEASURE!

To give your lover a gift of stimulating fellatio is pretty straightforward. The key is to enjoy giving it as much or more than the one receiving it. It is important to start with the preliminaries, which are totally worth the effort. Caresses, kisses, massage, scents, tastes—all are used so that excitation

keeps mounting in intensity, even before your mouth so much as touches his penis. You have various methods at your disposal: you can gently rub your breasts on his genitals, go over his nipples with the point of your tongue, kiss his body from stem to stern . . . all with your imagination at the helm!

Try to not repeat movements or positions. Surprise him with different approaches and ideas. Sure, he has just one thing on his mind. But you are in control; calm any concerns he may have and go over his entire skin before you fellate him. Lick his neck, lick his nipples, lick his belly, play with his belly button, and warm up his genitals with your hot breath, without touching them.

The moment has come: take his penis at its base with one hand and, using the other, massage his butt, anus, legs, and scrotum. Free his glans from its hood and bring it to your moist lips.

Form an “O” with your lips, rest them on the tip of his penis, and move your head in small circles.

Now is the time to fix your lips on his shaft and go over it, from one side to the other. Grab the end of his penis between your lips; make rapid turns, kissing it and tugging backwards on its delicate skin. Let his glans slide all the way into your mouth and squeeze the shaft firmly between your two lips.

Everything you do should be aimed at getting him to really enjoy the experience. While holding his penis, move your hand up and down; open your hand slightly as you near the base and close it as you get close to the glans. As your hand goes down, position your head over his penis so you can take

it deeper into your mouth. Keep his penis moving in and out of your mouth (with lips covering your teeth); use firm, but comfortable pressure. Lick his penis, going over its shaft and glans in particular. Nibble with your lips and use a lot of saliva; the better the lubrication, the better it will feel. Finally, put his penis in your mouth and run your tongue around his glans. Change directions as you move your tongue around; let your saliva cover it and press his frenum with both palate and tongue. Use your hands to massage his testicles, perineum, and anus.

Play with your partner by changing rhythms; move quickly, suck harder, and then slow down so he doesn’t reach orgasm.

When you move away, you can hold his penis with just one hand, or else leave your lips resting on the tip of the glans, so you can resume sucking immediately. In either case, make sure your hand remains around his penis, the back of the hand facing your mouth.

Another basic, very exciting fellation technique consists of taking the shaft of the penis with your hand and twisting the skin as you stimulate the glans with your tongue, or, with your tongue-tip go over the corona of the glans and toy with his frenum.

Know that a man’s sexual response to fellatio is going to be very quick. When you notice he’s at his highest point of excitation, remove your lips from the penis and begin licking and nibbling his scrotum and testicles. You can also abate an imminent eruption by massaging his perineum for a few moments.

DIFFERENT FELLATIO TECHNIQUES

Lick or suck the shaft of the penis; from back to front is the best way.

Lick or suck the glans (careful, for many men this can be annoying or painful).

Nibble or rub the glans (make sure it’s well lubricated).

Stroke, nibble, or lick his frenum and the ring of the glans.

Press or stretch the frenum (be careful, as excessive force can cause irritation).

Lick or gently nibble the scrotum, always from underneath to the top.

Put your tongue in the gap of his glans.

Any oral sex practice becomes much more exciting and pleasant when accompanied by manual stimulation (masturbation, pressure at the base of the penis, gentle fondling of the testicles, pressure on the ring of the scrotum, stroking the shaft of the penis, etc.).

USE YOUR IMAGINATION

BUTTERFLY WINGS. Pass your tongue rapidly over his frenum and take his penis, holding more of it in your hand than your mouth, making sure to keep your teeth covered with your lips so as not to hurt the delicate skin of the glans.

TOTAL SUCTION. With his penis in your mouth, close your lips around it and suck hard, pressing the penis against the palate with your tongue. Move your tongue over the frenum. If you prefer, take the penis halfway in your mouth and suck vigorously. You can also do this with the glans alone. When you notice your lover’s breathing is speeding up or his movements indicate he is about to orgasm, back off, and lightly pull on his testicles.

DELICIOUS CHILLS. Chill your mouth with an ice cube and then massage his frenum with your cold tongue.

DID YOU KNOW THAT . . . .?

The word “fellatio” comes from the Latin “fellare,” which means to suck.

The prostitutes of Phoenicia and ancient Egypt would paint their lips to advertise to their clients that they performed fellatio.

Cleopatra’s enemies spread the rumor that she was a great expert of fellatio. They said she practiced fellatio on her soldiers to conserve her youthfulness and vitality, given the “magical” qualities of semen.

In the Roman Empire, those who practiced fellatio and cunnilingus were looked down upon, but not those who received it. The worst insult a Roman could get was if someone told him he had practiced fellatio on another man. Equally, the worst threat was to force someone to practice fellatio on another man.

SHOULD I SWALLOW HIS SEMEN?

This is a very personal decision. If you don’t want his semen to enter your mouth, you must tell him beforehand so he takes his penis out of your mouth at the first spasms of ejaculation. It’s important, however, that you don’t stop suddenly right at the moment of climax: keep masturbating until he’s done. Maybe you don’t want his semen in your mouth, but a very exciting alternative is to let his semen spill on your breasts, neck, or face.

If you don’t mind swallowing his semen, continue to suck lightly as you notice he is coming and keep on until his penis totally loses its hardness in your mouth.

Most important is to be sure your lover is not infected with any STDs. Ingestion of any bodily fluids or oral to genital contact carry with them the risk of contagion.

Whatever your preference, the most important thing is to end your oral sex session in a seductive and exciting way. It’s important nothing causes disgust or repulsion, since this can ruin the magic of the moment.

It’s understandable that you might not like the taste or texture of semen. A good alternative to keep the climax erotic, if you chose not to swallow, is to let his semen run over his penis so you can give him a final hot and wet massage. The idea is not to take ejaculation as something “dirty” or repulsive.

HOW DOES SEMEN TASTE?

We are what we eat. This goes for the taste of all our bodily fluids, including semen. This means, for example, if the diet is heavy in foods rich in sugars, the semen will taste sweet and pleasant. On the other hand, if he overdoes the proteins (meat, fish, etc.), the semen will have a more sour taste and odor. In general, the foods which give semen a better taste are fruits (especially plums, mangos, pineapple, and all kinds of citrus).

The texture, taste, odor, and quantity of semen ejaculated are different for each man. It is not a case of “one size fits all.” Quantity (as well as texture) will vary depending on the size of the prostate and frequency of sexual relations.

As we’ve already said, the taste depends on what he eats and includes the effects of other substances such as tobacco or alcohol:

Bitter: consumption of alcohol and tobacco.

Sour: red meat, asparagus, cabbage, broccoli, spinach, coffee, and multi-vitamins.

Sweet: rice, potatoes, pastries, and all types of carbohydrates.

Tasteless: fresh vegetables.

In a recent Internet survey on the taste of semen, the responders voted as follows:

I do not like the taste . . . . . . . . . .8.5%

• I like it . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15.5%

• I never tried it . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52%

• It tastes sour . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9%

• It tastes bitter . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11%

• It tastes sweet . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 4%

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Semen is composed of various nutrients, including ascorbic acid, citric acid, creatine, magnesium, fructose, lactic acid, sodium, sorbitol, vitamin B12, and zinc, among others.

The average volume of semen in an ejaculation varies between one-tenth fluid ounce to one-fifth fluid ounce (3 ml to 5 ml), with a maximum around one-half fluid ounce (one tablespoon, 15 ml). The amount varies according to frequency of sexual relations and the degree of sexual excitement of the man. The amount of semen produced increases with age to a maximum, which depends on the individual. After this, the amount produced decreases, although the individual will keep producing semen for the rest of his life.

Regarding oral sex, semen can be swallowed without any ill effects. It is not fattening, and will cause no harm, as long as the man doesn’t suffer from any contagious diseases. The only thing to avoid is getting ejaculate in the eyes, as this can irritate the mucous membrane of the eye, producing temporary discomfort.

TASTES AND SMELLS
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It’s obvious that the practice of oral sex requires scrupulous hygiene of the genitals. Though there are people who are OK with their own smell, if you are going to have oral sex after a hard and long day at work, taking a shower together or enjoying a bubble bath would be a good way to start foreplay.

To thoroughly clean the penis, retract the foreskin carefully, wash the front and back of the glans as well as the frenum. Use ordinary bath gel and rinse abundantly with water. If you’re still not 100 percent sure about your partner, have him use a condom before you fellate him. There are varieties in different flavors which can make the session more flavorful!

TRICKS OF THE TRADE

If you want to leave your lover breathless, here are some secrets for giving him the best fellatio of his life:

Before you start, have something hot to drink. There is nothing more exciting to a man than to feel a hot tongue and palate running over his penis.

Submission is one of the most exciting sexual fantasies. Let him dominate you; follow his commands, kneeling in front of him. Other guys prefer just the opposite; you can tie him up to the bedposts, blindfold him, and suck him till he loses his mind!

Bondage consists of tying up your partner so that he can hardly move. It is a very kinky practice of domination. You can use silk handkerchiefs, ties, stockings, or similar items of

clothing. The key is to make your slave suffer. The master must toy with the slave’s excitation, doing what she knows will bring him to a place just short of total arousal, and then stop, leaving him begging for more. The man-slave will beg, more and more; his body will arch, he will plead, but it all depends on the one in control. To make it more kinky, she can even blindfold him.

If you want your partner to go straight to climax, introduce a finger in his anus or use your thumb to apply pressure to his perineum.

What excites them most is everything you do before your mouth ever touches their penis. Remember, the more you provoke their excitement, the more intense their orgasm will be.

Continual sucking and tongue stimulation are vital. If you want to get him to orgasm, speed up the rhythm until his respiration rate increases, he’s groaning more, his body starts to twitch involuntarily, etc.

Pinching different spots on his body creates an incredible sensation of both pleasure and pain. Before you go looking for clothespins to do this, be aware there are special aids available in sex shops. You can apply these pincers on many parts of your lover’s body like the nipples, the butt, big and little lips of the vulva, the penis, the clitoris, etc. Some advice: if you are new to this sort of thing it’s better to start out on less sensitive places, like the butt.